British psychologist Naomi Fisher is a mother of teenagers and a psychologist who has written extensively on psychology, education and mental health. In both her professional and personal life, she has dealt with the challenges of raising children.

Expert Naomi also felt pressured when her child did not achieve what her parents expected, and she even received comments from outsiders about how she raised her child. What she wants to tell parents who are in a "crisis" in the process of raising their children is that sometimes they should learn to ignore superficial judgments from outsiders.

Many people are fond of giving parenting advice, but they fail to understand that every family is different, and every child is different. What works for one child may not work for another. Only parents know best what works for their child. Here are some tips from psychologist Naomi Fisher for parents:

Accept reality as different from expectations

What you expect from your child and what your child actually does are always different. Every parent has to accept this. Even parents with well-behaved, well-developed children still have disappointments in their children. For example, children do not like reading as much as they expected, children do not actively help their parents with housework, or children often argue with their siblings...

In reality, no parent is completely satisfied with their child. Eventually, everyone must learn to accept that their child has different, even opposite, traits from their parents. When their child grows up, parents must also accept that their child will make some decisions that they do not agree with.

After all, children are independent individuals, so parents should learn to accept things that are not as expected of them. The sooner they accept, the less "headache" parents will have.

Accept your child's phone addiction and find out why.

Naomi has worked with parents who only dared to use computers and phones in their own rooms after locking the door. They did not want their children to see them using electronic devices. The children were only allowed to read books and play with toys, and the use of electronic devices was strictly limited.

However, according to expert Naomi, computers and phones are not all bad for children's development. When children cannot read yet or have poor communication skills, electronic devices help stimulate their brains and emotions in an easier way.

Many parents see electronic devices as a threat to their children's healthy development. Therefore, they do not understand why these devices are so attractive to children.

Naomi advises parents to learn about their children's online world. Sit down with your child and observe how they use electronic devices. What YouTube videos are they watching, what games are they playing...

Parents should also try playing online games that their children are interested in, and watching videos that interest them from beginning to end. From there, parents will know how to help their children improve their knowledge by choosing better quality content that still suits their interests.

Accept to give in to your child in some small things.

Parents often think that giving in and following their children's wishes is not a good thing. Many parents try to be strict and tough, never giving in to their children, even in small matters. This can easily cause tension and fatigue in the family because of small things. In fact, being a parent requires the ability to respond flexibly, not too rigidly.

Sometimes parents and children get stuck in a negative cycle because parents are too strict with their children's small mistakes and punish them too much. Therefore, the atmosphere in the family becomes unnecessarily tense, compared to the nature of the incident.

Expert Naomi found that the more children are punished, the more stubborn and unruly they become, even deliberately defiant towards their parents. Sometimes children listen, but do everything in a state of hidden anger.

The more parents punish their children, the more negative their attitudes and behaviors become. The relationship between parents and children becomes more tense and conflicts often arise.

Ms. Naomi advises parents to be flexible in small matters, to keep the family atmosphere happy and harmonious. A light and comfortable atmosphere in the family will make children more obedient to their parents. Parents should be flexible in small matters, and maintain strict discipline in big matters.

Accept your busyness

Many parents feel pressured because they are too busy to regularly give their children detailed, thorough attention every day. This mentality is common because in addition to raising children, parents also have many other responsibilities to fulfill.

Expert Naomi advises parents to stay relaxed. Giving children space and time to take the initiative to handle some of their own things will help them develop better.

At times when parents are too busy and cannot take care of their children closely and thoroughly, parents only need to maintain a regular presence at home, reminding their children that parents are always ready to support them, if there is anything needed. That is very meaningful to children.

Accept to be less serious, more humorous with your child.

Parenting is a difficult and demanding journey. To make things easier, parents should learn to see things in a humorous light. Depending on the age of the child, create appropriate humor to make interactions between parents and children more enjoyable.

Each family and each parent will have different ways of creating humor. Humor often helps parents communicate difficult things to their children in a gentler way. Many times, serious lessons are most effectively communicated through humorous conversations between parents and children.

Keeping the family atmosphere happy and peaceful should be a priority for parents. This will help children to be more obedient and cooperative, and everything will be solved more easily and better.

According to Daily Mail

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