The "secret" to maintaining family traditions in a family of four generations

We visited Mr. Quan's family on a day in early August when both he and his wife were taking care of Mrs. Luu Thi Hieu - Mr. Quan's mother, who is 97 years old this year. Mr. Quan said: Half a month ago, my mother unfortunately slipped and fell, so eating and daily activities were more difficult. However, when she said that guests had come to visit, she was still excited and still laughed heartily. Mr. Hieu said: I am now old, sometimes I remember, sometimes I forget, but I still remember that I have 13 great-grandchildren. Every time my children and grandchildren happily gather together, I feel better.

Mr. Quan and his wife have 5 sons who are all married and have 13 grandchildren. Currently, the fourth and fifth children live with their parents. The three older sons have moved out.

According to Mr. Quan, the key to maintaining family traditions is that parents must set an example. From a young age, he learned from his parents how to live in harmony and appreciate the neighborhood. Love and sharing with people around him are things his parents taught him and now he passes them on to his children.   “I am always grateful to my parents for always supporting me in raising my children. My wife and I live in harmony, rarely raise our voices, I am filial to my parents, and stay away from social evils, so whatever I say or do, my children listen and follow,” Mr. Quan shared.

Ms. Vu Thi Lien, Mr. Quan's wife, has been a daughter-in-law for 54 years and a mother-in-law for 33 years. She shared the secret to maintaining harmony in the family: In the past, my mother-in-law loved me like a daughter, helping me with everything, especially during the 18 years my husband was in the army. Today, I treat my five daughters-in-law the same way.

With decades of experience raising children, she   Lien never scolded her children but only kindly taught them to live peacefully and that sisters-in-law should love each other.   To achieve unity, each family member must know how to maintain family traditions and respect their elders. She believes that as long as she and her husband behave properly, their children will naturally learn to do the same.

As Mrs. Lien's fourth daughter-in-law, since becoming a daughter-in-law, Ms. Tran Thuy Duong has been taught many things by her in-laws about how to behave. In times of joy and sadness or when giving birth, her parents are always there to care for her.   "I consider my in-laws as my own parents. On days when I come home late from work, they go in and out waiting for me. Only when they see me return safely can they go to sleep peacefully," Ms. Duong confided.

After talking for a while, it was time for dinner. Mr. Quan's whole family, from his sons, daughters-in-law, and grandchildren, each had a hand in preparing the meal, with happy, cheerful words.

In the past, his family always ate together at the same table. However, recently, due to Mr. Hieu's poor health and to accommodate the children and grandchildren's schedules, the family has changed. Currently, the grandparents still take care of lunch for the grandchildren. As for dinner, the small families will prepare it themselves. However, his family still maintains 1-2 meals together on weekends or during death anniversaries and holidays. This is an opportunity for the extended family to gather, chat and bond.

Commenting on Mr. Hieu's family, Mr. Quan and Mrs. Vu Thi Hoai, Head of Hoang Doc village, said: 4 generations live together, but Mr. Quan's family is always considered by the people to be harmonious and warm.   no quarrel

Not only maintaining family harmony, Mr. Quan's family is also a bright spot in the local new rural construction movement. He and his children have contributed more than 50 million VND and many working days to build roads and civil works. The family actively mobilizes people in the village to contribute and join hands to build their hometown. With practical contributions, Mr. Quan was honored to receive a Certificate of Merit from the Chairman of the People's Committee of Hung Yen province. He shared: My children, whether working for a company or as freelancers, enthusiastically participate whenever the locality launches a movement. I hope that my hometown will increasingly innovate and develop, and that people will unite and live with love.

Source: https://baohungyen.vn/bi-quyet-giu-gin-nep-nha-trong-gia-dinh-tu-dai-dong-duong-3183724.html