Always equal, no holding back

In Flaubert's famous novel "Madame Bovary", the character Emma, ​​after attending a lavish ball with her husband, longs to become a member of the upper class. She borrows 8,000 francs to buy jewelry, hoping to transform herself into a lady. No matter how hard she tries, she cannot reach the upper class. She is gradually shunned by everyone.

An American sociologist pointed out: "All relationships between individuals are essentially exchange relationships. The nature of society is equal exchange. If you want to interact with good people, you must first be good."

In any circle of connection, it is important to be mindful of your own values ​​and identity. Just because you are actively present in a community does not mean that you are able to communicate and compete with people in that community.

Knowing a lot of people can be helpful in life, but don't forget you don't necessarily have to become friends with someone just for connecting with them.

True friends are those who can make you a better person, support you in your personal growth, and vice versa.

Not close enough, not strong enough

Some people always consider themselves to be emotional people, but in the end the promise of "regular contact" gradually turns into "no contact".

Ms. M. and her college friends have maintained a frequency of meeting once a week for many years, such closeness that many people are jealous of. But last year, her classmate went to another city to develop her career.

Ms. M. helplessly realized that spending time together every week had gradually become a burden. The journey to meet each other between the two cities was too tiring and time-consuming.

Because of different life experiences, it was difficult to have a common topic. Video calls also became less frequent and there were silences. The friendship that was admired by many was broken after only half a year.

In fact, no matter how good a relationship is, it will fade over time.

Friendship has everything to say, but after going our separate ways, even though we miss each other sometimes, we can no longer find a reason to connect.

Siblings grow up together at first, but when they grow up and have their own families, they cannot be as close as before.

In life, meeting and parting is a process that everyone must go through. Because each person's life trajectory is different, they must travel different distances.

After all, understanding the pain of parting makes people appreciate the moments of meeting more.

Negative energy, should be avoided

Recently on the Chinese Q&A site Zhihu, there was a question: "When do you decide to end a relationship?" The best answer was: "When the energy this relationship brings me is much less than the energy it consumes."

The person who answered this question shared more about her story. Not long ago, she had to block a friend's social media account. "For the past half year, every night she complained to me about family matters. Sometimes her husband was drunk and refused to come home, or when he did, he crawled on the sofa. Even during working hours, she kept complaining," this person said.

It was the negative energy from her friend that affected the girl. She was easily irritated and could not control her emotions when she encountered unpleasant things.

This also confirms the "law of emotional transfer" in psychology, that the emotions of a person and those around them will influence each other. Being friends with people full of "negative emotions" usually does not end well.

Circle of Friends Contains Cause and Effect: Be Careful When Socializing

According to a survey, your final appearance is a combination of the five people closest to you, and they will subtly influence your behavior.

In short, a person's future is often tied to his circle of friends. Making careless friends will bring disaster. Having sincere and kind friends will help us have a better life.

As Lincoln said, "In a sense, the kind of friends you choose, the kind of life you choose."

High-quality friends are often like a shining mirror, helping you maintain your inner self and progress without being overwhelmed by the interwoven streams of desires. On the contrary, if you associate deeply with undisciplined people, you will "catch" the same haphazard lifestyle.

The ancients said: "Choosing friends is the most important thing in life." When young, people are often careless in relationships. But as they grow older, they will gradually understand that only two or three friends are true friends. Be brave enough to give up unequal social relationships, friends who do not communicate, or relationships that only bring negative energy.