My wedding was held at the end of September, everything went well. Checking the money and wedding gifts, seeing Phong - my best friend - gave me a 1-tael gold ring, my wife smiled brightly and praised: "Your friend is so cool!". Looking at her happy expression, I just wanted to "pour cold water" that she was just keeping the gold for her friend, there was nothing to be happy about.

We have known each other since high school, for 12 years now, Phong and I are close brothers, so his wedding gift is also much more valuable than the normal guests. However, despite our closeness, Phong is very fair when it comes to money. When going out for coffee, instead of one person paying, the other paying or splitting the bill, he always wants each person to pay the exact price of the dish they ordered. If Phong doesn't eat sunflower seeds, he will definitely refuse to pay for that portion.

The same goes for gifts, you have to give back what you receive. He likes to convert the value to equivalent, he doesn't like to receive less than what he gives but he doesn't want to receive more either. So if Phong gives me 1 tael of gold when we get married, it's best if I give him the same when he gets married.

With parents, siblings, relatives or other friends, I can receive gold and pay money or vice versa, a little more or less is not important, but with Phong it is best to be precise so that the relationship is always good.

My best friend is still single, and with his current situation, I'm afraid it will be at least another few years before he gets to be a groom. In the past two years, the price of gold has skyrocketed. If it continues to increase at this rate, in a few years when my best friend gets married, the price of gold will be sky-high, and it will be heartbreaking to have to buy it. In the next few years, my husband and I will still be poor because we have to give birth and raise children, and we can't spend lavishly.

So I told my wife to keep the gold you gave me carefully, not to sell it to spend money on anything, just to keep the gold for Phong until he gets married and then pay it back. It was funny to think that a gift from a close friend turned into a debt, and I reluctantly became the one who helped keep the property. If only you just gave him money like everyone else, that would be great, I wouldn't have to think too much, when it's your wedding day I just need to give him the average amount at that time.

My wife said I was overthinking things. If we wanted to be fair, giving gold or money would be the same, so there was nothing to worry about. However, I still told her to put the ring in the safe. When you hang out with friends, you have to understand their personalities, then your relationship will last.