The story of Mr. Lam Phong, 68 years old, shared on social network Baidu (China) attracted much attention from netizens.

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My name is Lam Phong, 68 years old, currently living in a nursing home. Although I have a son and a daughter, the only person who regularly visits me is my ex-daughter-in-law. My son, daughter and son-in-law hardly pay any attention to me.

People often say that having children is something to rely on when you are old, but I have come to realize that this is no longer true. When old age comes and my partner is gone, my loneliness really manifests. At that time, not my children but myself is the most reliable support.

Family tragedy comes from "male chauvinism"

My wife and I have a son and a daughter. My wife was taught from a young age that the son is the pillar of the family, so she always favors her son, regardless of the disadvantage of her daughter. Every time like that, I also try to defend and comfort my daughter.

We used to own a big house on the outskirts of town. When it was demolished, we received three new apartments and compensation of more than 1 million yuan (about 3.5 billion VND).

I plan to keep one house for myself and my wife. The remaining two houses will be divided equally between my two children. I will also divide the 1 million yuan fairly so that my children have capital to do business.

However, while I was away working, my wife arbitrarily gave the two apartments and the entire amount of 1 million NDT to our son. When I found out, we had a fierce argument. After that, I rushed to my son's house to demand justice for my daughter.

Fortunately, my daughter-in-law, Tu Le, was understanding. She agreed to return the house and give my daughter a portion of the 1 million yuan, but my son did not. In fact, he almost got into an argument with me.

When my daughter-in-law tried to stop him, my son pushed his wife down. Witnessing that scene with my own eyes, I regretted not raising my son properly, allowing my wife to spoil him, causing him to become the selfish person he is today . After that incident, my daughter cut off contact with her family. When my wife became seriously ill and passed away, my daughter did not return. She followed her husband to live elsewhere, took the children with her and disappeared from my life.

I decided to disown my son.

After having the money, my son quit his job and started partying with bad friends. In just 2 years, the entire 1 million yuan was gone. But my son still did not come to his senses, he even sold another apartment to invest in unrealistic projects. This was one of the reasons why my wife fell ill and passed away.

After my wife died, my son had an affair and beat his wife to force a divorce. Tu Le is a gentle, "hard-working" woman, always filial to her husband's parents. Tu Le single-handedly raised Tieu Quan - my grandson.

Angry at that ingratitude, I declared to cut off relations with my son. I supported my ex-daughter-in-law's divorce and gave the house to my grandson. From that day on, my son and I treated each other as strangers. I lived with my ex-daughter-in-law and grandson. One day, Tu Le met someone new and remarried, I could not stop her from finding happiness.

After Tu Le remarried, my son came back to me and asked me to come live with him. At first, my son seemed remorseful and took good care of me. But gradually, I realized that what my son cared about was not me but my pension.

When I gave my pension card to my son, he still cared for me. But after a year, my son's attitude changed. My son and his new daughter-in-law started to act cold, even hinting that I should sell the remaining house to help them buy a house near the school for their daughter.

I flatly refused. The house was in Tieu Quan's name, I couldn't betray the trust of my grandson and ex-daughter-in-law. From then on, my son and new daughter-in-law started to show their attitude, treating me like a stranger in the family.

One day, Xiao Jun came to visit me. Seeing me looking haggard, he advised me to find a better living environment. Thanks to him, I learned about a nursing home with full facilities. There, the elderly lived happily and were well taken care of.

After some thought, I decided to leave my son’s house. When I announced it, my son and daughter-in-law did not stop me. They were only interested in my pension card, offering to give me only 1,200 yuan (about 4.2 million VND) per month. Meanwhile, my salary is 6,000 yuan/month (about 21 million VND).

When I asked for my pension card back, my son said, " Dad, you're old. It's easy to get cheated if you hold money alone. Besides, it's not safe for you to go to the bank alone. Why do you need to spend so much money? So, we give you 1,200 yuan a month to spend ."

Hearing that, I was helpless and couldn't say anything more. I immediately packed my things and asked Xiao Jun to help me move to the nursing home.

Now, I am living a new life. Although I am no longer close to my children and grandchildren, at least I am free, respected and no longer a burden to anyone. My biggest mistake was to spoil my son too much and then bring suffering upon myself.

I hope my story will be a lesson for other parents: " Don't put all your expectations on your children. When you get old, take care of yourself first ."