No matter the situation, people with high EQ can assert their wisdom and intelligence. Below are the common characteristics of people with high emotional intelligence in the workplace:

1. Use the Tom Hanks rule to learn how to focus

In an interview, famous actor Tom Hanks said that to get memorable roles, he needed to learn how to say "No".

"Saying yes means you have to do the work. But saying no means you have a choice of the story you want to tell and the role you want to play."

Tom Hanks' rule helps you develop self-management, an important aspect of emotional intelligence. It's simple: Every time you say yes to something you don't really like, you're saying no to something you do.

This is important to remember because it can be tempting to say yes to a new friend's request, to an interesting project, or to every party you're invited to in order to please everyone.

The Tom Hanks rule helps you remind yourself that every decision leads to a result within a certain time frame. Of course, you shouldn't say no to everything. Part of building relationships for success is helping out when you can.

Every day, you will face difficult choices about how and where to spend your time and energy. When doing so, remember Tom Hanks' rule: Control your emotions and say no to things that are not important to you so you can have more time to focus on your personal goals.

2. Respect other people's opinions

To be successful at work, you need not only intelligence but also high EQ. This will be the way for you to prove yourself at work and be loved by many people.

In a group, each individual has his or her own ideas and suggestions. Therefore, you will receive a lot of feedback from colleagues and superiors in meetings.

You need to know that your idea may not be the best choice. Everyone can come up with new, interesting ideas that can contribute to the collective result.

Therefore, people with high EQ never judge or underestimate others. On the contrary, they give absolute respect to others and listen to see if their opinions are positive or not.

When you can do this, your superiors will certainly appreciate you. That is your acumen and correct thinking to help the group develop further.

3. Turn feedback and reviews into constructive ones

No one likes receiving critical feedback. That's why professional coach and communications expert Chris Colaco says you need to switch up your feedback by adding one word: ''constructive.''

Instead of making judgments, criticisms, or judgments, people with high EQs often add the word "constructive" to their questions: "Can I give you some constructive feedback?"

Colaco suggests that by adding the word constructive, you change the perception of feedback from negative to positive and helpful. This will make your suggestions to your team members more likely to be heard.

Since you have determined that your purpose is to help, not to criticize or harm, they will be eager to listen to what you have to say.

4. Know how to keep secrets, do not discuss behind other people's backs

In the workplace, if we are not careful, we can easily encounter gossip. Therefore, if you are a person with high EQ, you will definitely know how to keep secrets and keep your mouth shut to avoid getting yourself into trouble.

You can't control what is said about you so it's best to be careful about what you say.

In particular, wise people will not talk behind others' backs because that is not a good thing. You should give advice to others to help them improve instead of talking behind their backs and making the relationship worse.

You will become the center of trouble and be considered a gossip if you talk behind other people's backs.

5. Strengthen engagement with people with the rule of recognition

The rule of recognition is simple: Your default setting is to focus on what people do right and give sincere praise for positive actions.

At work, you can apply this by saying: '' Although these words are not enough, I really appreciate what you have just achieved. I really see the effectiveness of the project you are working on. It really brings a lot of benefits to the company. Keep up the good work.''

When compliments are sincere and specific, you achieve three things:

- Encourage people to continue doing positive things

- Build trust and psychological safety

- Make it easier to share constructive criticism and reviews.

6. Don't over-express yourself

In the workplace, there are many people with outstanding abilities but they do not always show it.

When you first start working, it is best not to show off your own abilities but to focus on learning from others. In all situations, you should emphasize learning to improve yourself, increase your abilities and become more confident.

When you are humble, both your colleagues and superiors will have a good impression of you. You should demonstrate your abilities at the right time to be recognized and given more opportunities.

Once you have made a good impression on your superiors, your promotion will be much easier.

7. Be good listeners

In the 1950s, psychologist Donald Broadbent conducted an interesting study. He had people wear headphones, but each ear transmitted a different message. Broadbent then tested the subjects on their ability to remember.

No matter how hard people try, they can’t remember all the information from both sources. This research proves it: We only really listen to information from one source at a time.

So in a world with more distractions than ever, how do you let others know you're listening? Put your phone away.

In meetings, conversations, and even at the dinner table, you need to practice the "no phones" or "silent phones" rule. Doing so will show people that you are interested in what they are saying. This will make them listen to your responses. This will create the foundation for strong relationships.