Talking to the doctor, she said that the two of them often argued, leading to anger and discomfort. At these times, she just wanted to have sex to resolve the issue, instead of talking. This made her feel better, even though the two of them could continue to argue. Over time, she felt stressed, haunted, and dependent on sex.

On August 120, Dr. Phan Chi Thanh, Department of Examination, Central Obstetrics Hospital, said that many people, like Tien, have to resort to sex to resolve the frustration in their bodies. The immediate benefit is that after sex, both parties feel relieved, calmed down and less angry.

"This is not a disease," said Dr. Thanh, adding that anger can also stimulate sex but should not be abused. Medically, this condition is called "angry sex", which often occurs when couples are in a state of stress or anger.

Anger and other strong emotions can cause changes such as increased heart rate or blood pressure, rapid blood circulation, increased testosterone levels. In particular, when we are afraid, angry or anxious, the body will produce a large amount of adrenaline - a hormone that causes strong emotions. "At this time, people tend to seek sex to release excess energy created by anger," the doctor said.

In addition, sex increases happy hormones in the brain such as oxytocin and dopamine, making us feel happy and relaxed after sex. Oxytocin also has the ability to improve psychological stability, help you feel more connected and resolve anger. At this time, sex becomes a way to convey difficult emotions. Therefore, many couples choose sex to mend relationships or ease previous conflicts.

However, abusing relationships can lead to disorders, obsessions, and even dependence. This is not a way to completely resolve disagreements, especially when the other party only sees it as a physiological need. Therefore, for Ms. Tien, the doctor advised her to confide in her partner to relieve psychological problems first, to avoid prolonged stress affecting her health.

Sharing the same opinion, Dr. Le Duy Thao, Department of Andrology, Hong Ngoc Hospital, said that having sex when angry can aggravate anxiety and stress. When the mood is not comfortable, it will lead to disappointment, difficulty in sublimation, and even disharmony in sex.

"If it happens repeatedly, it will lead to depression, stress, fear of sex in women, and premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction in men," said Dr. Thao. Having sex when tired is also harmful to mental health and general physical condition. Having sex often because of anger also creates unhealthy habits, affecting the quality of life and future happiness.

In addition, having sex while losing control can easily lead to violent behavior, even abuse due to lack of alertness. Couples easily ignore safe sex measures such as using condoms, leading to unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.

The doctor advised that the most important factor when having sex is voluntary and consensual. In the case of having sex when angry, both parties must control their behavior so as not to hurt each other. "Note, this is not a method to resolve conflicts but only a mental medicine to help couples calm their anger," the doctor said. The best way is for both parties to talk to each other to solve the problem.

In addition, people who are undergoing medical treatment and have weak bodies should not have sex. Do not have sex during menstruation, as it can easily cause congestion leading to menstrual disorders, menstrual cramps, amenorrhea and other gynecological diseases. In cases of constant obsession and fear of sex, you should see a psychologist to avoid prolonged stress that affects your quality of life.

Thuy An

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