Before the term EQ was coined, IQ was considered the most important factor in determining an individual’s success or failure. People with high IQs were believed to be more successful than those with low IQs. However, not all intelligent people have the ability to be successful.

Researchers are beginning to realize that relying on IQ alone is not enough. In 1995, brain and behavioral scientist Daniel Goleman pointed out that IQ only accounts for 25% of success, while emotional intelligence (EQ) is the factor that accounts for 75%. EQ here refers to the ability to understand, recognize, evaluate and control emotions of oneself and others.

In some other statistics with more factors, success is based on 20% professional skills and 20% IQ, while the remaining 60% depends entirely on emotional intelligence quotient (EQ).

That is, people with high EQ have the ability to understand themselves and understand the emotions and thoughts of those around them. Therefore, they know how to control their own emotions, build healthy relationships with others, and adapt easily in all situations.

Here are five simple rules that people with high EQ often apply:

1. No stable job, only stable ability

Recently, on China's largest Q&A site Zhihu, a netizen asked: "I received two job opportunities. Working in a foreign company will pay three times more than working for a state-owned enterprise. Which one should I choose?"

In hundreds of comments, the majority advised this person to join a state-owned enterprise, because of its stability.

The so-called "stable job" has two meanings: One is not afraid of unemployment, two is being able to fully ensure life's needs. However, having a stable job does not mean that just having that job will allow you to sleep soundly, without any worries.

There is no job in this world that is naturally stable, what we really need is the ability to earn a stable living. And behind the ability to be stable is learning, learning more, learning forever.

If you want to train yourself to become a professional with stable capacity, you must always ask yourself if you have learned anything new and expanded your knowledge.

What motivates you to change is confidence, irreplaceable ability, and the courage to step out of your comfort zone, experience new things, and take on challenges.

2. Challenge yourself with big projects

In an office environment, there is no shortage of small, nameless tasks. If you do these things all the time, your career will stagnate forever because you never dare to "swim far from shore".

You accept doing small things out of habit or because you don't want to be under new pressure, but you will never dare to step out of your comfort zone.

This “trap” will even tie you down if you don’t learn to proactively challenge yourself with bigger jobs and constantly strive for new roles.

Self-development is difficult to do, but doing the same job forever, isn't that something everyone can do?

3. In the workplace, "discipline is power"

Many people think that listening to your superiors is a sign of flattery, so they try to belittle and mock them. However, if you do not rely on the experience of your predecessors, do not study hard and communicate with your seniors, you will not be able to do your job well.

Anyone in a leadership position must go through a period of learning from those who have gone before them. To become a competent person, one must learn from their seniors and seek their advice.

In the workplace, many people do not understand this truth. They may cooperate well with their colleagues but always show hatred towards their boss, so they are less effective at work.

However, if you are always in such a confrontational state, you will not be able to focus on your work and improve yourself.

4. Must demonstrate your abilities to others

People with high EQ will not "sit still and take it" but will work hard and want to prove to others the results of their work.

How you work doesn't matter as much as the results your boss sees.

So, showing a positive side of what you do at the office will help people see you differently and motivate you personally.

5. Don't be afraid to lose face

No one wants to be criticized or looked down upon by their colleagues or superiors. Therefore, many people pretend to be competent when in fact they are not capable of handling the job.

If you do not listen to other people's comments to change and try, your ability and career will not be able to go far.

People with high EQ are often not too concerned about their appearance at work. Because they realize that they still have many limitations and still need to learn more knowledge and experience to develop.

They also understand that superiors or partners do not care about their self-esteem or reputation, but only care about their work efficiency and attitude.

In the workplace, not only is work capacity needed, but sometimes eloquence, vision, emotional intelligence and strategy are needed.

With good eloquence, you can express what you want to say in a form that the other person likes to hear while still maintaining mutual feelings, so that others can understand you and increase the chances of successful negotiations.

With foresight, you can figure out where things are going, find the key to unlocking it, and get double the results with half the effort.

Patterns and strategies will allow you to stay on track and gain the trust of others.

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