But everything will change when you grow up, when you forget yourself and look to understand the people around you. First of all, it is your parents, siblings, friends, colleagues… the people you meet and interact with every day. Only then will you look back at your youth and laugh, “Why was I so immature back then?”

A speaker once told us: Right or wrong is not the most important thing, the most important thing is experience because this life is built on the principle of trials. I have thought a lot about what he said. Perhaps we have been taught since childhood that there is only right, wrong means being scolded, beaten, and condemned immediately; so we are very afraid of doing wrong, and the more afraid we are, the more we shrink back, not daring to experience anything new, only staying in the safe zone. So we are satisfied with our current life, justifying ourselves with all kinds of reasons, the ultimate goal of which is to avoid failure at least.

“Life is simply an experience”, that sentence haunted me for months. I asked myself if I dared to experience, to face failure, and to stand up and start over from where I fell or if I fell once and ran away to another place. I questioned myself if I was tolerant enough with my child, accepted his mistakes, guided him to stand up from failure or just scolded and blamed. I sat down and re-evaluated myself up to now, whether I was tolerant enough with the people around me or always stubbornly defended my own point of view, judging others.

I asked myself many questions. After each question and answering myself, I realized that the biggest ignorance lies in myself. I often hear people say "a peaceful mind brings peace in all things", I thought it was simple but it turns out that to follow those five short words, I tried my whole life but still could not achieve it. There are people who practice for their whole life but still cannot get rid of greed, anger, and ignorance in themselves.

Whatever we see, we immediately judge. A pout, a look of disdain, a smirk, or just a distant look… We are used to judging everything according to the right/wrong standard. To change, to be more tolerant is easy to say but extremely difficult to do.

Just recently, when young people flocked to see BlackPink's music show in Hanoi, many adults were clamoring to express their opinions that sounded serious. That's right, the newspaper reported that a young person confided that he had to borrow money to have enough money to buy tickets, and the newspaper also reported that after watching the music show, the audience threw a mountain of trash into the stadium. Many people criticized that today's youth live without ideals, idolize their idols like crazy, and that their parents disobey them, ignore them, and idolize a music group. There are also a few people who defend that admiring someone is the freedom of young people, and that once they reach adolescence, they will become more "mature" and live more responsibly.

Actually, idol worship is not something that has just happened. When we were young, didn’t we sing along to Phuong Thanh, Lam Truong, My Tam… all day long? Or recently when Vu Linh passed away, there were so many elderly people who traveled from the countryside to the city to take the artist to his final resting place. Every generation has their own idols, suitable for their own interests and tastes. This is normal, completely normal. We just see so many young people flocking to see the show of the four Korean girls, we see the price of the show is too high, we are “shocked”, and then arguments break out.

And in fact, it is not that when people grow up they will no longer idolize anyone, it is just that when they grow up they know how to control their emotions better, not showing them through excessive actions. Moreover, when they grow up they understand that idols are just normal people, with good and bad sides, so they have a more tolerant view, no longer blindly admiring, and no longer acting "childishly".

It cannot be blamed on the fact that the internet is so developed nowadays that children are crazy about following the majority trend. Each era is different. We must accept the difference, know how to change ourselves to suit. As parents, as adults, we should also change our perspective, how to have a more respectful and tolerant view of our children and young people. If our children show signs of excessive idol admiration, too negative, we must review whether our way of educating them is appropriate. We should respect our children's interests and their lives, so they have the right to live as they wish, parents are only guides and cannot live their lives for them. Once children find their own person, their own inner strength, they will know how to shine, have a tolerant view of others, and will no longer be crazy about admiring someone.