Until I heard a psychologist say that during puberty, children often listen to their friends, that only their friends are right and understand them, while their parents are just... strangers. It was really sad, the lesson of being friends with children was only learned at that time by the father.

Make friends with children

Another father, when his 11-year-old daughter showed signs of puberty while his wife was away from home... Not knowing how to help his daughter, opened Google and saw all sorts of confusing instructions. Faced with this situation, the father realized a huge gap in his knowledge of raising children, so he apologized to his daughter: "My dear, please forgive me, this is my first time being a father so I don't have this knowledge yet."

Being a parent is a long journey that requires a lot of learning... Children grow up and learn how to develop skills, intelligence, attitudes and values. Parents, on the other hand, have to learn how to behave, communicate and raise their children appropriately.

The story of a teenage father made me both admire and determined to bring books to learn about how to be friends with children. Because his wife often went abroad for work, Mr. L. (45 years old, District 2, Ho Chi Minh City) took care of, picked up and taught his two teenage sons. His secret to being friends with his children is not difficult at all, it's just that if you want to be friends with your children, you have to have the same interests as them.

Knowing that his children like to listen to Alan Walker's music, the father also researched and collected Alan Walker's good music. The children like to ride their bikes to tourist areas on the weekends, and Mr. L. also tries to follow suit.

Mr. L.'s experience as a father is to regularly ask his two children about the things they are interested in and follow the trends on social networks that he finds suitable. His concept is that the world of children has so many things to learn, parents need to put aside their ego to learn what belongs to their children.

So, there are still cases where fathers are challenged: "Dad! What should I do if a girl likes me but I don't like her? Girls are very bold these days, Dad! She even texted me that she would confess her love in front of the class during class time"...

Continuously accumulating in the journey of parenthood

"Children come first, fathers come first; grandchildren come first, housekeepers come first" means that parents and grandparents only learn how to behave and communicate appropriately with each child when they are born.

Each child has different personality traits, temperament, interests...

General knowledge of child psychology will be the foundation, cannot be applied in a stereotyped, mechanical way to a specific child. To teach each child effectively, adults must contact, learn and combine with the knowledge of child psychology equipped.

While raising children, learn how to influence them in the most appropriate way. The older the children get, the more experience they gain as parents, and the more appropriate their behavior becomes.

Parents cannot be with their children much, so if possible, they should take advantage of every opportunity and time to give their children happy, joyful childhood memories right from the time they are in the womb.

Children who have more happy childhood memories will grow up well, have a pleasant mentality, love life and be more satisfied with life. At the same time, these children also tend to build more pure and healthy relationships with everyone.

To accompany their children throughout the journey of raising and educating them, parents need to constantly accumulate knowledge, skills and attitudes appropriate to their children's continuous development.

It can be said that each child that appears in this world will have different ways of influencing the child, so that the child's parents can become more mature and grown up.